Comments on: Violence http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/ Sun, 17 May 2009 15:31:06 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: js http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-7 js Thu, 28 Aug 2008 12:32:19 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-7 Good point, nirali, and well done. I think this would have definitely been an option for me as well, but I wasn't in the right space at that moment. So much of what happens depends on where you are. Good point, nirali, and well done. I think this would have definitely been an option for me as well, but I wasn’t in the right space at that moment.

So much of what happens depends on where you are.

]]> By: Nirali Shah http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-6 Nirali Shah Fri, 22 Aug 2008 06:49:42 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-6 Hey John, Something profound occurred for me a few days ago related to your post. I was sitting on a mountain watching a sunset. It was quiet and no other human was in sight. After sometime, a slightly shady character came by and kept starring at me for the longest time. I obviously got uncomfortable and also scared. For me, the fear of getting raped has been a pretty compelling emotion ever since my teenage years. My first instinct was to get up and slip out of the situation. But then, I realized that this might be an opportunity to face this fear, and not run from it. I followed my instincts and stayed there. The man came a little close and sat down a few feet from me, still starring. After a point, something inside me started shifting. I started experiencing a kind of calm surrender. This shady character was transforming into God for me, and whatever he did was Okay. I had no resistance. Whatever happened was God's will and I was willing to flow naturally. Fear dissolved into a deep peace and also a brotherly Love for the man. I can say without a doubt that something in him was also changing. His stare became more gentle. He now turned around and started looking at the sunset as well. After a while, when I was ready to go, I got up, bowed my head slightly as a kind gesture. He returned the bow and then I walked back to my room. I felt liberated. Hey John,
Something profound occurred for me a few days ago related to your post. I was sitting on a mountain watching a sunset. It was quiet and no other human was in sight. After sometime, a slightly shady character came by and kept starring at me for the longest time. I obviously got uncomfortable and also scared. For me, the fear of getting raped has been a pretty compelling emotion ever since my teenage years. My first instinct was to get up and slip out of the situation. But then, I realized that this might be an opportunity to face this fear, and not run from it. I followed my instincts and stayed there. The man came a little close and sat down a few feet from me, still starring.
After a point, something inside me started shifting. I started experiencing a kind of calm surrender. This shady character was transforming into God for me, and whatever he did was Okay. I had no resistance. Whatever happened was God’s will and I was willing to flow naturally. Fear dissolved into a deep peace and also a brotherly Love for the man. I can say without a doubt that something in him was also changing. His stare became more gentle. He now turned around and started looking at the sunset as well. After a while, when I was ready to go, I got up, bowed my head slightly as a kind gesture. He returned the bow and then I walked back to my room.

I felt liberated.

]]> By: js http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-5 js Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:57:23 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-5 touché. ;) touché. ;)

]]> By: Ashvin http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-4 Ashvin Sun, 17 Aug 2008 09:31:30 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-4 I think u need to watch The Fight Club :) I think u need to watch The Fight Club :)

]]> By: js http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-3 js Thu, 07 Aug 2008 15:06:31 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-3 Grasshopper, are you saying that you get hit by men often? If so, that's totally not ok, and you are likely doing something wrong. You need to get yourself out of situations where this potential dwells. I'm not suggesting that one should ever ignore violence. I'm just saying that I prefer to detour around it. Possibly you could get your son into a martial arts program taught by someone who understands the deeper wisdom of restraint. Your son can then exercise these tendencies and hopefully also learn to keep them in check. If your son is being exposed to men who hit, these men may be modeling behavior for him. If so, you probably want to find better models for your son. :) Grasshopper, are you saying that you get hit by men often?

If so, that’s totally not ok, and you are likely doing something wrong. You need to get yourself out of situations where this potential dwells.

I’m not suggesting that one should ever ignore violence. I’m just saying that I prefer to detour around it.

Possibly you could get your son into a martial arts program taught by someone who understands the deeper wisdom of restraint. Your son can then exercise these tendencies and hopefully also learn to keep them in check.

If your son is being exposed to men who hit, these men may be modeling behavior for him. If so, you probably want to find better models for your son.

:)

]]> By: Grasshopper http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-2 Grasshopper Wed, 06 Aug 2008 05:38:14 +0000 http://tobetrue.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/violence/#comment-2 Yes, I quite agree. But that does not happen so easily. We are all of us programmed to compete, to protect, etc. I don't get upset anymore when I get hit by men anymore, I take it in my stride, I accept it just as I would a hello, how are you? I say no thank you and carry on as if nothing significant has happened. But yes, Violence is scary. I don't know how to deal with the violent tendencies in my son. He is just seven and loves to fight, to play, he sure has a lot of energy. I wish I knew how to channelise it. Yes, I quite agree. But that does not happen so easily. We are all of us programmed to compete, to protect, etc.
I don’t get upset anymore when I get hit by men anymore, I take it in my stride, I accept it just as I would a hello, how are you? I say no thank you and carry on as if nothing significant has happened.
But yes, Violence is scary.
I don’t know how to deal with the violent tendencies in my son. He is just seven and loves to fight, to play, he sure has a lot of energy. I wish I knew how to channelise it.

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